We all have filters that affect the way we view different people, situations, and circumstances in life.
And, when the Universe sends me a message in multiple forms, I take it as a sign that it is something I need to pay attention to. And that is the case with the title of today’s blog.
Listening to the radio yesterday, I heard a song that caught my ear. The man was singing about two lovers and the lyrics went like this: “He didn’t see her through his eyes, he saw her through the eyes of his heart…”
I loved that line.
Our physical eyes are very related to our conditioned or filtered thoughts. You’ve heard the saying, “Seeing is believing.” But this is actually totally inaccurate. Instead, scientists have discovered that ‘Believing is seeing.” We only see what we believe we are seeing. Our conditioned thoughts filter and re-arrange what we see to fit our beliefs.
So if we want to see the world as it is, we can’t rely on our physical senses. They are much too distorted by our conditioned beliefs. Instead, we can learn to see through our heart. We can learn to see the world through feeling.
The Oglala Lakota Chief, Black Elk, said, “We can all see in the day, and this seeing is sacred for it represents the sight of that real world which we may have through the eye of the heart.”
This morning on Annette Rochelle Aben’s Attitude of Gratitude blog, I found the same message about looking through the eyes of the heart, and how different things appear.
So, I felt compelled to pass along that thought.
I recently found myself in a social situation where there was this perfect woman. She had the perfect body, blonde hair, straight shiny white teeth, fashionable clothes, the latest trendy shoes, and she exuded money and social perfection. As any other woman would do, I felt intimidated and small next to her.
I don’t know about you, but I hate that feeling of inadequacy. I know it goes back to my childhood and being an outcast in school because of the religion forced on me, but I fight it with every ounce of my being.
As soon as I could do so with appearing obvious, I slipped away and went home. Did I feel down? Heck, yes. Should I have? Heck, NO!
Because at the end of the day, our physical appearance is not the reality of who and what we are. The physical body will disintegrate into dust (or ashes in my case) and what remains is the heart and soul of the person.
I don’t know this woman on a personal level. I only judged her through my mind’s eye, not from my heart.
So, even though this powerful message was for me, since I am compelled to share it, I am to believe it may be for someone else as well.
We know who and what we are on the inside. And, when our earthly journey ends, that is what will remain. Perspective is everything.
Try looking through the eyes of the heart for just one day and see what a difference it makes.
Big Hugs and thank you for taking the time to read this message. I hope it inspires one person today!
Eye ❤ U
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Beautiful, Annette!
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Nice perspective today.
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Thanks for stopping by, Craig. Hope your day is awesome!
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Thank you for sharing your experience and insights with us. This struck me as a hard reminder. There is so much truth that people see what they believe and I waste so much time frustrated by that. I know then I see them through the same eyes after that experience when I should be still doing it through love. Sometimes I don’t want to give in to what my heart sees yet–in the end it is the only important thing. Perfect post Jan:)
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Thanks for your great comment, Denise. I agree that I get frustrated with wasted time on petty things that, in the bigger picture, make no difference. I am glad you enjoyed the post.
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“People see what they believe.” Profound. Many times our beliefs are taught and not based on personal experiences. Very good post. Thank you, Jan.🤗
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So true, Linda. We see through our skewed filters. Thanks so much for leaving a comment today!
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Beautiful, beautiful reflection, Jan. I so understand your childhood experiences, and I resonate with the insecurity felt when next to the “perfect” woman. Perhaps because of being “elderly” now, my awareness has shifted. Gosh, I guess that means I needed 7 decades to begin to “see with the heart.” That’s a humbling thought! 😀
Thank you for the reminders and the encouragement. ♥
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Thank you, Gwen. It’s amazing how it takes us so long to learn some things in life. But, I think the fact that we do eventually learn is the most important part of it. Thank you SO much for stopping by and leaving such an insightful comment. Hugs!
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What a powerful post, Jan! I had to go to a meeting with strangers today and I’ve got a nasty summer cold. On top of that, its a bad hair day, I’m pale from the cold, treading zero confidence and just wanting to crawl back into bed. Of course everyone else was on their A-game, so I can definitely relate to that feeling of insecurity. I was seeing with my eyes and not my heart. Loved the message in this!
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I think when we are faced with those awful feelings of inadequacy, it’s an opportunity to grow within ourselves. Thank you so much for leaving a comment, Mae. Hugs and hope you’re feeling lots better!
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I enjoyed your pondering, Jan. I’ve known so many of those negative feelings, and continually try to kick them to the curb even now. Well done, my friend. Hugs.
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Come on to Texas, Teagan, and let’s talk about it over a cup of coffee or glass of wine! 🙂 Hugs!
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Jan- you just made my day. I’m going to share this with everyone. This was one powerful message and while I was listen to scripture today on the radio, this verything was taught. God made each and everyone of us different in our own unique way. That was his purpose for each and everyone of us. So yes I believe if we all stopped looking with our eyes and started looking with our hearts, we would all see a much brighter world.
Love you Jan and thanks for sharing.
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I felt it was my duty to share, Tonya. When the Angels give me a nudge, I have to pass it on. 🙂 We are all different in our own unique ways and yet society tries to mold us into one product. I tend to be a rebel and I think we all need to be in order to find and preserve our uniqueness. Thanks so much for leaving your sweet comment. Love you too!
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Than you for sharing the thought and your personal story, Jan. Very inspirational
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Thanks, John.
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So much for Grammarly.
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Excellent message! Thank you for sharing. Yes the world would be a much better place if we filtered what we see with our eyes but saw things with our heart fully open. ❣
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Absolutely!! Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment!
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Thoughtful, Jan – so often our perceptions are mirrors of us rather than the other person or situation.
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So true, Wendy! Thanks for your insightful comment. Hugs!
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A powerful message Jan and very true. We are all a little guilty of judging a book by its cover and missing a great deal of what is real and worthwhile. In the blogger daily this evening.. hugs ♥
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Thank you SO much, Sally for stopping by and weighing in on this issue we all face. And thanks a million for the re-blog! Hugs!
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Very topical Jan with the current obsession with wannabe role models that rely so heavily on surgical enhancements and bling! ♥
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This is a lovely post with a beautiful message.
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Thank you, Robbie! I appreciate you stopping by!
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Powerful message from the heart! :<3 Sharing…
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Thank you, Bette! I appreciate you.
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Beautiful Jan ❤
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Thank you, Debbie. I’m honored that you stopped by.
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What a lovely post Jan. We all feel inadequate sometimes and put ourselves down or compare ourselves to others. The world would be very boring is we were all the same! Thanks for being you.
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So very true, Lizzie! Thank goodness for variety!
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What a gorgeous post, Jan. This really spoke to the heart, and it’s a message that so many of us need to contemplate -how we “view” ourselves and others. The eyes are the windows to the soul, but they can also deceive. I agree that seeing with our hearts is a perspective that rarely will lead us astray. ❤
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Thank you so much for leaving a comment, Diana. I agree that our hearts will rarely lead us astray. I appreciate you dropping by!
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Great blog post, Jan! Beauty and perfection is in the eye of the beholder. What looks perfect to you, may not be so appealing to someone else. That so-called “perfect” woman may have a hundred insecurities and may not see perfection when she looks at herself in a mirror. I was told once, to look at the outer appearance of people as I would look at a beautiful car, painting or flower, it’s outer beauty. We should only judge a person by their inner beauty. We all have insecurities, some more than others I’m sure. You can admire another woman’s beauty and still socialize in the same vicinity. No one is comparing the two of you. If someone does compare the two of you than you have to wonder what’s wrong with that person. I loved your post, because it gives us a lot to think about and reminds us that no one is perfect. ❤ xx
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Thank you, Vashti. I love your comment. You are so right and like you say I’m sure the woman who I allowed to make me feel inadequate probably has her own insecurities. I know the lesson was for me and I embrace it and accept the learning. Seeing from my heart is a goal I will strive to achieve every day. I appreciate you taking time to read the post and leave such an insightful comment! Hugs!
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It’s always a pleasure. Thank you for the wonderful post. ❤ xx
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‘I taut I saw a putty cat! I did, I saw a putty cat! The heart can see what the eyes will seldom see! Lovely, Jan! Your heart sees so very well! ♥
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Lol! Thanks, Billy Ray. I’m glad you stopped by!
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